Happy birthday to the man of my dreams! He’s the best father and husband I could ever ask for, and aging like fine wine. (We’re only in our thirties, but still. That’s old for wine, right?)
Thank you for all you’ve done for our daughter and me. Thank you for always loving me even when I have made it impossible to do. Every year together means another year in forever, and I couldn’t imagine spending it with anyone other than you. We love you!
It is the 7th wedding anniversary for my husband and me. Seven years married, and a lifetime to go. It’s interesting now to think back on the advice we have been given throughout our years together.
“Never go to bed angry.”
“Share the load.”
“Oh, you won’t be doing that for much longer!”
All of it was taken with a grain of salt because not a single person knows what goes on in some other couple’s relationship. Regardless of how close the outsider might be to the couple, they will never understand what it is like to be in your relationship with your significant other.
However, there is some sound advise out there. Not all of it should fall on deaf ears.
But, does advise ever grow old? Is there a time limit for the value of the advice? Does it grow stale over years, or lose its potency? Does it keep forever regardless of when it was given?
The best marriage advice I have ever read can be found in an article from a writer in 1886 named Jane Wells.
“Let your love be stronger than your hate and anger.”
Man, of they entire world doesn’t need that lesson right now, no matter the marital status. Letting hate and anger fester does nothing but foster more hate and anger. Only love can heal. True for life and marriage.
“Learn the wisdom of comprise…”
Another life lesson, but I feel this so truly for marriage as well. No one agrees with another individual completely on every topic known to man. And, if they do, they may need to take a journey to discover themselves. Find what really matters to them, and understand their own mind.
“Believe the best…”
Because the worst is sometimes an imagined doubt rather than truth. Give the benefit of the doubt. Innocent until proven guilty.
“…living up or down to opinions.”
Set the bar high. Demand what you want, but be ready to compromise and be surprised.
The basis of any marriage should be friendship. The couple should have a foundational bond of fondness toward each other, which will serve to keep them from falling apart. Friendships may be tested, but it is the connection between the two people that will endure.
“…hand this down to your children..”
Because the more things change, the more they become the “new norm”.
Finally, I leave you with this.
I have loved a man with my entire heart for over 15 years, and dedicated the rest of my life to loving him 7 years ago. It has been hard, full of compromises, times of anger, but the love we share is worth it. The relationship we have is everything to me because we keep surprising each other.
As most mom’s know, we are trying to find ways to keep our young ones learning, entertained, and, for just one moment, occupied while we try and do anything around the house! We also want to see our kids using technology in a way that is more than mind numbing television or video games. We want sustenance for their little minds!
Enter ABC Mouse.
I’m sure you’ve seen the ads as much as I have, especially if you’ve even thought the words “homeschool” or “kids at home learning”. HOW DO THEY KNOW?!
I finally caved because I was tired of hearing other apps being used on my five year old daughter’s tablet that were nowhere near educational. The ABC Mouse app at least has a purpose to teach the child something.
Again, I digress.
When I first got the app for my daughter, she’d play for a few minutes then look for her other apps. I’d redirect her and get her back on the learning path, but I think it is beneficial to all considering the app to know there is a motivational aspect to it that I had to explain to my daughter.
To keep the child engaged, ABC Mouse has a built in reward system. For every module they complete, they receive tickets for in app “purchases”. (They cannot buy tickets with real cash. I checked. They gotta do the work!) These “purchases” are for their virtual classroom, in app pets, and avatar clothes and home decorations. Money is a concept my daughter is still learning, so explaining the tickets and what they could be used for helped tremendously to motivate her and do the work!
Her current favorite thing to do is buy stuff for her avatar’s house. She was having fun buying up all the class pets and coloring by numbers, but we’ve moved on to decorating!
Overall, I think my daughter and I are both happy with the app and it’s teaching ability as well as it’s engaging qualities. I would recommend it to Mom’s looking for a way to keep their kids learning. I would just add, be on the lookout for the best discount code. There are a lot of them!
During this quarantine, I’ve been working full time, trying to teach my daughter kindergarten lessons, keep my house running, exercise, and take a certificate course. All this, and I have been desperate to find time to write! Writing is what keeps me sane, and with all this going on, it’s the lifeline I need to keep making it through my day to day.
Introducing “There’s This TikTok”, a Wattpad exclusive!
These short stories are a compilation of the teens who choose to do the infamous challenges on TikTok. You’ll find the lead up to the challenge, the reaction, and the aftermath as we follow each teen’s story!
The first challenge in this trio of short stories is the Kiss Your Best Friend challenge! Imagine meeting someone who easily fits into your life. They become your best friend. You laugh together. Cry together. Just all around do life together.
But, what if that spot they filled evolves into deeper emotions? What if your heart finds them to fit perfectly there, too? Would you be willing to risk it all? Would you be brave enough to shoot your shot?
If you haven’t watched these TikToks, I highly recommend them! I’m such a sucker for romance, I just had to take on the challenge of writing a before, during, and after story for them. It was just too fun!
Recently, I’ve been really focused on trying to get back to a healthier weight. I am sadly at a heavy weight, and I am trying to find the will I once had to get back in the diet mindset. For me, I know lower calories, lower carbs, and moderate exercise works for me, but with so much Keto diet success, I was curious.
I know Keto works for some. I’ve seen the results in multiple Facebook groups. I tried, and have found many things I love about the diet, but I also learned my body does not respond well to such low carbs. Regardless, a few months ago, I was curious. I started researching, and one of the items I wanted to try was an Egg Fast. Fasting in general is best done when you body is fat adapted, so I tried to have a complete Keto diet, keeping my macros and monitoring my calories. I did this for about a month, and thought I was ready for an egg fast.
I WAS NOT!
**Disclaimer: an Egg Fast may work for others! Know your body, do your research, and consult your doctor!
Eat your first egg 30 minutes after you wake up. It was closer to 40 minutes, but did it! Two eggs, two tablespoons of butter, salt, pepper. First meal, done!
Eat (min) 6 to (max) 12 eggs a day for (min) 3 to (max) 5 days. Eat every three-four hours. Add a tablespoon of healthy fat to every egg. Up to three ounces of cheese, all day. Add salt for electrolytes. Drink water! (RESEARCH EGG FAST!)
I thought I was ready, but I so wasn’t!
By my second egg “meal”, I had lost all color and felt ill. My family started to comment on my appearance, and my husband tried to throw crackers at me! I am no quitter, so I decided to finish out the day on the fast. I have never regretted a “diet” so much in my life. I realized right then and there, the Egg Fast was not for me, and slowly brought my body back to normal over two days with healthy shakes, chicken broth, then finally, healthy meals.
I do not recommend this fast, but again, it may work for someone else. Please learn from my lesson, though. Do your research, and know your body. I did not know my body was going to react that horribly to the Egg Fast, but now I understand. I’ll forevermore stay in my low carb lane!
If you have social media, you may see some interesting ways those that make a living off their abilities have decided to try and continue to make said living. Specific to Facebook, some DJs have taken to hosting virtual events. I found DJ Kopec doing exactly that!
DJ Kopec is from the greater D.C. area and a great disc jockey! His mix of throwbacks to today’s hits, all blended in masterful transitions is amazing to hear. Anytime he starts a playlist, I can’t help but dance!
What this quarantine has brought out in many people is philanthropy. We all want to play our part by helping our fellow man, but as we see too often, we, as humans, fall short. During this time of uncertainty, there are those that have risen to the challenge.
Introducing DJ Kopec!
He has hosted many dance parties on Facebook, starting soon after the quarantine. At first I thought his events were just for him to make money, but as I watched and listened to his set, I realized it was so much more!
DJ Kopec has hosted these live events for many causes during this crisis, including raising money for organizations like Feeding America, as well as donations of chicken, eggs, and bread to local food banks. Sometimes there is sponsor with a challenge, like how many viewers will he receive, or how many t-shirts will he sell. Other times, there are announcements of angels pledging donations. He’s not just looking to make a pay day for himself (he does have his own virtual tip jar), but he’s using his skills and helping those in need.
Everytime I jump onto one of his events, he has at least 7,000 viewers and more people donating what they can. It is one of the greatest testaments to goodwill I have ever seen in my life, and I find it amazing that I get to take part of it, just by dancing!
Check DJ Kopec out, and join his next live virtual event!
I’ve taken several soft-skill classes pertaining to communication and personality types, and the one thing I have learned from each is how much room for growth I have. Call it ego or immaturity, but in my 20s, I could have sworn to you I knew exactly who I was and how to communicate with anyone effectively.
I WAS WRONG!
I’m approaching my 30s swiftly, and I am finding myself reflecting on my communication skills and personality type in ways I’ve never taken the time to consider before. Am I a details or big picture seeker? Do I like small talk or getting down to business? Am I competitive, or am I collaborative? I’ve never stopped to consider any of this in my communication style. In doing so, I have learned so much about myself and am working on the parts of me that can be improved.
For example, to answer the small talk versus getting down to business questions, at work specifically, I loathe small talk. I have a job to do, and I only have so many hours in a day to complete my tasks. When communicating with coworkers, I want to get to the point and move on to the next.
What I have realized this says about me and how it translates into my personal life is my amount of patience. I have a five year old daughter, and I try to summon all the patience in the world sometimes when I am talking to her. Otherwise, with anyone and anything else, my fuse is short! This is one area in my life I want to badly to work on. I want to be more patient. I want to take the time out of my day to stop and smell the flowers rather than plowing through life like a bulldozer.
I’ll get there one day, but for now, I’m just glad I have become more self aware. The first step is acknowledgement, right?
My five year old daughter loves Poppy and Branch! After that first movie came out, it was all she would talk about. She would sing the songs and want to wear “Poppy pink” all the time! The movie was sweet and catchy with the mashups, so not too much heartache to be found after watching it multiple times a week.
When we heard a second movie was coming out, my child was so excited! We made the viewing party into a real experience for her since we weren’t able to see it in theater (due to the thing that must not be named). We baked cookies, made crazy drinks, and ate whatever she wanted for dinner. We laid out our spread and turned the movie on.
We built the moment of watching the movie up so much, this child was bursting the moment the first song began! Every few seconds she would say, “Daddy, did you see that!” Or, “Momma, look!” It was hilariously adorable! Luckily we were at home because this child could hardly contain her excitement.
As the movie played out, she was completely sucked in!
I, on the other hand, missed the first movie.
Don’t get me wrong, the second movie was cute, too, but something about the dialogue didn’t work for me.
In the first rendition, there is a conflict, a mission, a redemption, and a resolution. All of that is present in this sequel as well, but the interactions between the characters just feel short and bland. I know these movies have a lot of music in them, which I thoroughly enjoyed in both films, but there is a lackluster quality to the spoken exchanges between the characters themselves. Anytime they weren’t singing, there wasn’t much value added to inform the audience of what was happening.
Without getting too detailed, there is mention that certain events happened before and history was repeating itself. There is even a quick reference to whom the conductor of the first event was, but it’s blown off so quickly, it’s hard to tell if it’s really what they meant or if they were just wondering if that was the case. There are several instances like this where they just casually throw a comment out, but there is no further interaction amongst the characters to progress the thought process.
I know, it’s a kids movie. I didn’t have any overreaching expectations of the movie other than my daughter’s enjoyment, and she definitely enjoyed it!
Queue playing the soundtrack on repeat until we can buy the movie and play it incessantly!
Man, am I glad people complained about the way Sonic looked before they CG’d him. I can’t imagine the movie would have been even half as good had they not taken the time and given Sonic his proper aesthetics. I wonder what Tails would have looked like, too, had they not had fans balk as vehemently as they did about Sonic! Silly!
I’m a 90’s kid, so I grew up with Sega and playing Sonic. When I saw this movie was coming out, I honestly didn’t know what to think. When I saw how they originally designed Sonic, I was out. Nope, not going to watch it. Done! But, after the redesign, I was curious.
Talk about a well done movie!
The casting we phenomenal! Jim Carey was amazing as Dr. Eggman. He brought humor to an otherwise dastardly villain, and captured the struggle between the two iconic video games characters perfectly. James Marsden was always a great addition to the story as the Doughnut Lord, a great sidekick and earthling to bring Sonic through his journey.
A lot of critics have called the movie a cute, cuddly, clunky CG tirade, but what they are missing is the nostalgia. Any kid who grew up playing Sega knows Sonic. The iconic clinking of the rings. The power up zing as Sonic rolled into a ball. His trademark red and white sneakers. You may only appreciate these well captured aspects if you used to spend your afternoons after school playing the game!
I truly hope there will be a next movie! And I’m being led to believe, there will be! Yes!
Everyone has an opinion on any number of topics. These opinions are words created in our minds to form coherent thoughts and phrases in favor or dislike of a certain thing. Literally, it could be anything we form an opinion on, and it could be in any varying degree between loathe and love.
But, what so many people forget is none of them matter.
Opinions are like assholes; everyone has them.
With well over 7 billion people on this planet, each of them has billions of opinions cultivated within their brain. If opinions were physical matter, the world would be polluted ten times over with them!
Mars, here we come!
So, whatever higher power you believe in had the infinite wisdom in ensuring your thoughts, your couth brain waves, only weigh down your mind, and not the rest of the planet. Thank goodness!
You may ask, “Well, what do we do with our opinions if they are so unavailing?”
I am no almighty being, so I cannot attest to what the grand plan is/was for these ever scurrying mind mice, but I have learned something.
The more you say, the less people hear. Listen more. Speak less. And, only bare your thoughts if, and when, you can contribute to the progress of the discussion.