Nintendo Switch – ARMS

My husband bought the Nintendo Switch a few months back, and since that time, he has had me play with him on a couple of games. I’m not a big gamer, but since I love my husband and the console wasn’t cheap, I have been trying to be a good sport with the idea in the back of my mind that once my daughter is older, she will be the one playing these games with him.nintendo-switch-colors

Mario Kart was nostalgic. Back when I was kid and in daycare, we would spend many hours playing Mario Kart on Nintendo 64. It felt like a blast from the past playing the familiar tracks and versus games. However, it is still just as frustrating. I push and hold the button for drifting, and I always end up off the track!

Next was the Snipperclips game. I’m warning all married couples right now not to ever play this game together! My husband and I about threw our controllers out the window attempting to make the darn shapes by snipping each other’s pieces to form. Man, that was aggravating! (And fun, but shhh! Don’t tell him that!)

There are a few small games that were all part of the 1-2-Switch package that we started out with, and those provided hours of fun. My favorite was the treasure chest game where you twist the controller to unwind the chain wrapped around a chest while my husband’s was the quick draw, cowboy-esque game.

Now, he has the ARMS game. I haven’t played it with him yet because we don’t have an extra controller, but I honestly don’t think I want to. I have been writing a bit while lying in bed, and he is in the room with me, screaming at the TV. If he wakes up our daughter, I’ll break the darn thing. It is funny though watching him punch the air while twisting his arms in awkward positions to prompt his avatar to punch his opponent. At least that is entertaining.

Overall, the console seems to be satisfying to him, but we may need to rethink having it in the bedroom.

Creating a PowerPoint “Movie”

I’m currently taking a class for my bachelor’s degree called Preparing for the Future (IDS 403). When I first signed up for it, I thought it was going to be something along the lines of personal goal setting and career path planning, but the moment I read the syllabus, I knew I had guessed way wrong.

This class has turned out to be all about technology and its influence on society, and vise versa. It is demonstrating the evolution of society and technology as two correlating factors throughout history while attempting to arm students with methods of addressing a societal problem and finding a solution through technology.IDS 403-T5272 – Wastewater Reuse Mod 6

It has been a demanding course with an extensive project broken into many “milestones”, but I am thoroughly enjoying it. Let me just say, though, I am so glad I am at the very least familiar with PowerPoint. Actually, I am a certified Microsoft Office Specialist in PowerPoint, but if I had never used PowerPoint or had very little knowledge before this class, I’m telling you right now, I wouldn’t be enjoying this course at all!

I have basically had to create a “movie” with PowerPoint using slides and voice narration. I am essentially giving a static presentation that I, luckily, don’t have to stand in front of anyone to give. I have also had to record a few video blogs which my husband would laugh and make faces at me while I was creating them, and I would in turn flick him off off-screen, but I digress.

After all this piecing together clips and voice narrating and formatting and optimizing, I have never had such respect for movie editors before in my life! Maybe this is a hidden piece to the Preparing for the Future curriculum; preparing us for lives as film editors!

Ehh. After watching and listening to my little movie, I think I will stick with my current day job..

Marriage is(n’t) the new dating.

I have seen it all too many times. Couples who rush into marriage regardless of how long they have been in a relationship together and ultimately fail. In my group of friends, I already have a handful of them that are divorced, and a smaller few of them already remarried. Each situation is unique, but each seems to have a common theme.

I honestly believe there is a moment in every relationship where the couple comes to a crossroad. Based upon the decision that is made at this fork, to fight or to give up, it will make or break the union. mike-enerio-87677.jpg

I know that may sound like a no brainer, but there is a great depth to this moment. I’m not talking about who will do a house chore, but rather something life changing such as the topic of children or financial decisions.

First, the crossroad is reached based upon a situation or scenario that tests each person as an individual. Their needs, wants, values, and very foundation of their entire lives is called into question.

Once the individual has decided their own thoughts and feelings on the situation, the second step to deciding whether to fight or give up is evaluating their partners conclusions. Sometimes this can lead to arguments and fights, but if I have learned anything in life, listening to the other side’s opinion is key to having a full understanding of any scenario. Patience is the only way through this step.

Once both parties have worked through their own understanding of the situation and now know where their partner stands, and here is the most important part of this entire process, step three is to decide if there can be a compromise.

Compromise is such a small, basic word that is thrown around in everyday conversations, but the meaning behind it packs a whopping punch. By googling the word, a definition pops up as follows:

NOUN
compromises
(plural noun)
  1. an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions:
VERB
compromises (third person present) · compromised (past tense) · compromised (past participle) · compromising (present participle)
  1. settle a dispute by mutual concession:

A mutual concession. Let that sink in. Both parties, after deciding what the situation means to them and hearing what it then means to their partner, will have to decide if a compromise, or a concession, or a partial/full giving up of something in order to meet in the middle on a decision/way to handle a situation, can be reached.

Both parties have to choose whether a compromise can be reached.

If one can’t, then I can guarantee the relationship will end. It may not happen after the first failed process in attempting to compromise, but the infection of the disagreement, of the stubbornness to meet somewhere in the middle for the sake of the relationship, will only spread until that final crossroad is met, and the couple gives up.

If a couple does not go through this process at least once before marriage, I will guess again that the relationship may fail. Without the foundation of choosing to fight for each other, if it were to arise in the midst of the marriage for the first time, I have seen it before where a couple succumbs to the crossroad.

I’m not sure if the romantic ideology given to many from movies, novels, and even songs has tainted our belief that marriage should be easy, but it seems that when it starts to get rough, couples are surprised or shocked.

alejandra-quiroz-658MARRIAGE IS NOT EASY, but it can be so beautiful. When two people continuously choose to fight for their love, fight to keep their relationship alive by working through their issues and finding common ground, there is beauty. When two people choose each other over their own needs and wants, there is compromise. When a couple decides to walk hand in hand down the same path, love will always lead the way.

Lesson of the day, my friends. Love your spouse. Fight for your marriage. Don’t let the crossroad lead you astray. Find the compromise, and continue on, together.

 

Movie Review: Let’s Be Cops

IMDb: It’s the ultimate buddy cop movie except for one thing: they’re not cops. MV5BMjI3MDY2ODQwNF5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTgwNjUzNjE4MTE@._V1_SY1000_CR0,0,674,1000_AL_When two struggling pals dress as police officers for a costume party, they become neighborhood sensations. But when these newly-minted “heroes” get tangled in a real life web of mobsters and dirty detectives, they must put their fake badges on the line.

I’m really late on this one, but I just had to share a few thoughts.

I believe the main theme of the movie was to say that it is never too late to find yourself and take responsibility for your life. Now, that might be a bit heavier than the actual message, but I just need to get this off of my chest.Read More »

Heart Tissue from Spinach Leaves?

OK, just woah. Woah. WOAHHH!

I know that is not very literary of me, but I think I might actually be at a loss for words. I mean, who the hell sits at the dinner table, eating a spinach salad and thinks, “Hmm, if we remove everything from this leaf and push blood through, maybe we can make heart tissue for people who have had heart attacks.” Like, who are these people?

Researchers at Worcester Polytechnic Institute are now taking spinach leaves and transform them into human heart tissue…that beats. They are showing promise that removing everything from the spinach leaves and leaving just the vascular system the leaf contains then attempting to grow tissue within it that actually beats can actually help someone who has suffered a heart attack. These leaves would replace the dead tissue left after the attack and beat with the rest of the heart.baby-spinach-leaves

I am extremely grateful for geniuses like these, but could you imagine living in their heads? Holy cow! I’m literally floored by this! I think I’ve rambled enough. Here’s the article and interview of these absolutely amazingly smart people.

Just wow.

Transforming Spinach Leaves Into Heart Tissue – wbur: Radio Boston

 

Loving Me

Not many people know this about me, but I’m choosing to share it because I refuse to let it control me anymore. I am an extremely self-conscious person, so much so that I can be my own worst enemy.

When I was a teenager, it was worse with all of the terrible experiences I endured, but dance and my part-time job were enough to distract me a majority of the time. As I graduated grade school, I had to find other ways in dealing with my self-respect, but it followed me into adulthood and threatened to consume me all too many times.

After getting married and having my daughter I was able to give myself some slack because I had proof that I was at least doing something right. A man who loves me, and a growing, thriving baby girl. Now, as my daughter gets older, I’m finding that I am beginning to fall back into my old pattern of chastising myself continuously for even the smallest of blips. I know it isn’t right or healthy, but I’m struggling to find ways to bring it to it’s final end.

As a teenager, I think I got to the point where I was self-loathing, but I haven’t sunk that low in a long time. I want to be stronger for my husband, and a better role-model for my daughter. I want to grow and live a life of love. I never want to go down that dark road again, so here’s my way of assuring I don’t. tom-ezzatkhah-103592.jpg

I’m vowing right now to love myself. I’m promising that I will not allow my mind to explore the idea that I’m not good enough, or that my efforts are pointless. I’m swearing right now that I will be my greatest cheerleader in the days, years to come. If nothing else is true in this world, we have this one body, one chance to do our best. I refuse to let myself be my own stop sign.

It’s a heavy topic, one that took me a while to really talk about, but I hope this may help someone else see the light, and change their thinking. Love yourself first because you are the only person in this world who really knows you.

Movie Review: Assassin’s Creed

Back before my husband and I became parents, we had all the time in the world to play video games (him) and watch movies/T.V. (me), but now its a rare occasion, and typically only when it is paid for such as gift cards for his games or friends lending us movies to watch, etc. Makes us sound cheap, but it’s just not what we choose to spend money on anymore. Every now and then we get to combine our interests and spend time doing what we both like.

Assassin’s Creed was supposed to be that perfect mix. It wasn’t.assassin_s_creed_movie_poster_2016_by_fincher7-dad26yg

IMDb: Through Abstergo a company that creates a revolutionary technology that unlocks his genetic memories, Callum Lynch (Michael Fassbender) experiences the memories of his ancestor, Aguilar de Nerha (Aguilar Of Nerha), in 15th Century Spain. Callum discovers he is descended from a mysterious secret society, the Assassins and Templars, and amasses incredible knowledge and skills to take on the oppressive and powerful Templar organization in the present day.

IMDb Rating: 6.1/10

My Rating: 4.5/10

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Black Sails and The Walking Dead

I’m not sure what got into these writers, but all the sudden both shows have taken a turn toward amazing dialogue​. I’m jumping right in here, so consider this your warning now.

The greatest highlight in the entire Pre-Series Finale of Black Sails was Madi’s conversation with the Governor. My mouth was literally on the floor as she spelled it out for him that he was the reason Eleanor died. The dude looks like he is on the brink of losing his mind, and I literally thought he was going to go nuts right then and there. I wouldn’t have blamed him for an outburst because she literally just twisted a knife in his back that had already been making its way through his chest. It was almost poetic the way she built to the moment where she plunged the dagger into his heart. Man, I was amped during that entire exchange! Not to mention the fact that she said exactly what Flint has been saying all along to Silver. The war was about far more than her and him. 

Then there was a beautiful piece by the old sailor pirate who had long past his prime, but was brought on to help Jack find Skeleton Island. He gave an incredible monologue about his time as pirate, it coming to an end and feeling like a faint memory, but the sea’scall was always there. It was outstanding and sent chills up my spine for it’s perfection and realization that all things must come to an end. Talk about gold!

Now for The Walking Dead. Sasha’s lines were still basic, but at least her scenes had meaning! It was more than just filler moments, and who are we kidding, Negan is the man! I believe this scene was exactly taken from the comics minus the fact that it was Sasha, but it’s transfer to see such basic human right being preserved in a time of chaos, again minus the knife to the neck of the would be abuser.

That about summed up the episode for me because besides getting more guns, that was about all that happened. Oh, and Dwayne showed up in Alexandria. And the Hilltop exposed the jackass in the suit for what he really was: scared peon.

Next Sunday will be no contest for me though as to which extended episode I will be watching as it is aired. Black Sails all day! I can’t see how they are going to end it in such a way that it prequels Treasure Island, but if the Series Finale is anything like this pre-finale, I know I won’t be disappointed. The Walking Dead is just going to have to wait!

How to Handle Bad Reviews

Have you ever tried something that just didn’t go the way you had hoped and turned into a bad experience? Sometimes we can ignore them, others we feel propelled to let others know about our horrible encounters. We all come across these events in our lives not matter the person, place, or thing of focus. Bad customer service; blast them on social media. Malfunctioning product; unpleasant reviews on company website. Read a lackluster novel; ream the author out on GoodReads.bad-reviews-online-yelp

There is no easy way to handle harsh reviews, but I have come up with a few steps to help my fellow providers of any product or service to come out stronger after such abuse. Before we begin, I want to be clear that there is a very real difference between constructive criticism and plain rude comments. Constructive criticism is exactly that, a positive offering from a consumer to help strengthen the seller’s position within any market. Malicious reviews do not fall in this category, and sometimes can be a little hard to swallow. This is where my focus will fall because constructive criticism is part of everyday life, so we should be acclimated to these types of comments whereas verbal lashings for most are a bit further and farther in between.

*Disclaimer: I am an author, so this will be geared more towards my colleagues, but all suppliers are welcomed to cite whatever piece they find valuable from this post.

1. Read the comments with an open mind.

Do not attempt to read reviews or listen to customers with a turbulent or distracted mind. Whatever is going on in another part of your life, whatever has previously upset you either work related or otherwise, forget about it for all of the amount time it is going to take you to complete this process before reading/hearing any sort of cruel negative feedback. Clear your mind, steel it if you are new to this process, and continue to the next step.

2. Don’t take it personal.

Remember the first step. Read the comments with an open mind and don’t take it personal. I of all people know that this is hard to do especially when a reviewer is literally dragging your name through the mud, but we have to remember that to them whatever product or service they were provided with did not meet expectations and therefore has let them down. This can be heightened dramatically as the cost to the consumer is higher. No matter what the reviewer has said, don’t take it personally, and continue on.

3. Find the constructive pieces.

Unless the customer is literally just throwing profanities and cursing your very existence, during these times of frustration, we all just want our voices heard. Again, if the reviewer is just lamenting that you occupy space on this planet, it is best just to ignore it and/or advise them to provide feedback at such a time that it can contain constructive points. If the consumer is frustrated, but still explaining why pertaining to the product, then there is hope for something constructive and possibly a lesson to be learned. It may be hard to sieve through some of the not so helpful points, but again, remember our previous steps and focus on what can be helpful advice.

4. Do not respond.

This may be equally hard to do, but specifically to my fellow authors, do not respond! Unless you are on the phone or in person with the disgruntled customer, do not respond. List out the constructive points as you read the statements with an open mind. Even if you think you have the end-all-be-all comeback, do not respond. This is about learning to find what is helpful to better yourself in the future.

Revert to the previous step if you are face to face with an unhappy consumer: advise them to provide feedback at such a time that it can contain constructive points, and if it does contain such points, acknowledge them, but do not offer excuses or explanations. Just listen and give their concerns merit. Do not take anything said to you to heart. Remember, it isn’t personal. They just want to be heard.

5. Remember that you are not perfect.

No one on this planet is perfect. We all perform the same mundane tasks every day between bathroom usage and clothing rituals. You will never make everyone happy no matter the product or service you provide, but we can at least continue to understand that there is always room for growth and use these scenarios to our advantage. If a reviewer says that your story lacks dialog, try to add more in your next. If a customer states that your product brakes too easily at this certain piece, evaluate their concern and strive to make it better. We can take these moments of criticism and strive to make ourselves. Not perfect, but better.

6. Grow.

We are all human, and life is a continuous saga of learning lessons. Be the bigger person, and better yourself from the experience. Take what you can from each lesson, and let the rest go. (Not to sound too “Frozen”-y.) Everything we do, we can get better with practice and determination. Never give up, just accept this new challenge and rise above it.

My husband will look at me at times and ask how I can stand to see some ill-intended comments. My answer is always that I take them and choose to grow from them. I refuse to let it get me down because then what does that accomplish. We all have too choose to be better, to strive for more, and with each new project, that is exactly what I do. In a way, I guess I am breaking one of my own rules with this post, but to all who have provided feedback on any of my works, I thank you for helping me reach for higher heights, and I will always strive for greater.

Let me know of any tips that I may have left out, or different ways you may cope with such comments. If you just need a listening ear, I am here for that also!