I recently married my best friend and high school sweetheart this past summer, and although I love him more than anything, his work schedule had started to take a toll on our relationship. For those who have a spouse that works long hours, or a spouse that works strange days, you know exactly what I mean.
My husband has a fantastic job, and he provides for us both, but a “swing” shift with twelve hour days, and every week he would work different days; it was a lot to handle. Before that job, he worked straight nights, and before that he worked a regular day, but on call at all hours, and then, his first job, he was in the U.S. Coast Guard. Needless to say, his work schedule has always been a bit insane!
For the spouses of our military men and women, you are a strong breed! People who learn to live, cope and have healthy families and lives under the amount of stress being a military spouse brings are incredible people.
Anyway, my husband worked crazy shifts, so I found things I could do to pass the time until he would come home. We just bought a house last summer, and for me, cleaning is a pain, but can also be therapeutic, so I cleaned. I also caught up on my favorite TV shows, new chick flicks that hubby wouldn’t want to watch even if he was off, and read novels I would randomly pick up.
Even though I enjoyed all of those things, nothing gave me more peace of mind than writing. While hubby was at work, I would spend hours writing my latest novel. From the time I would get off of work and take care of a few daily items around my house, I would do nothing but write, sometimes even forgetting to eat dinner. I would become so lost in creations.
Now, hubby has a new job! Straight days, normal hours, no on calls; it’s like a reset button on our relationship where we can actually spend time with each other again. I didn’t realize how much I missed him until he started this job.
But, now, I am having to squeeze time in my day for writing. It mainly has taken a backseat, so I can enjoy being a newlywed, but I think it is time to get back to the writing horse. I think I’m ready.
Later next week, I’ll bring you a sneak peak of my next project, and I promise it will be longer than this blog.